Love's Executioner

"What ails?" is a question Dr. Irvin Yalom repeatedly asks his patients. According to Dr. Yalom's Love's Executioner, therapist and patient can only answer this question and thereby come to a successful place in psychotherapy through personal interaction and mutual respect. The therapist's ability to lay down internal defenses, confront his own prejudices, all the while tolerating uncertainty, is critical.

Whereas the layman may assume that the therapist guides the patient through systematic and pre-determined stages of therapy toward a set, predetermined goal, in reality, rarely is this the actual case. Often, the therapist is armed with a map of training and past experience that proves to be of dubious merit. Yet, Dr. Yalom believes that the fumbling that ensues along the route to improvement is to be expected.

As the therapist searches for terra firma, he may even arrive at a successful as much by relative luck as by design. In fact, complete reliance in a particular therapeutic system may lead to unsatisfactory results. The temptation to pigeon-hole clients is overwhelming, while the therapist can be closed-off to observations and understanding that do not fall within his obscured view.

"Even the most liberal system of psychiatric

nomenclature does violence to the being of another.

If we relate to people believing that we can

categorize them, we will neither identify nor

nurture the parts, the vital parts, of the other

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