comparing ourselves to others blinds us to opportunities that we may not expect (20-22).
The Zanders define the personalities that are formed by our measuring ourselves against others in a world in which we see scarce resources as our ôcalculating selvesö (81-83). They argue that, as children, we create for ourselves personalities for which we get recognition and which control our actions and habits (Zander and Zander 82). But we carry these personalities into our adult lives although we may no longer need them to be recognized. Rather, they become limitations
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