lt. As Berne writes, when a person is coming from their Adult, it means that
You have just made an autonomous, objective appraisal of the situation and are stating these thought processes, or the problems you perceive, or the conclusions you have come to, in a non-prejudicial manner (24).
Berne is not arguing that we should do away with our parent or child sides, just as Tannen is not arguing that men and women completely change their different ways of communicating.
To the contrary, for Berne, the parent and child sides are important parts of the healthy personality. Sometimes, being child-like or parent-like is an important role to take in relations with others. What Berne wants to do is awaken the individual to the presence of these roles so that when that individual is in those roles, he or she is there because he or she choose to be there, rather than bec
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