Human sexuality is a complex and challenging aspect of human nature. Throughout history people of both sexes have enjoyed sex with each other as well as with members of their own gender. Yet, sexuality is often categorized as if it fits into some neat package or explanation that defines the individual in ways that are more inclusive than just their sexuality. Sexuality, on the other hand, is more of a continuum-like concept that has shades of gray and is seldom definable in black and white categories. Therefore, to label someone a bisexual, gay or lesbian, or straight is ridiculous. These labels are often inaccurate and misleading; furthermore, they are too limiting and serve no useful purpose.
Labels to define a person’s sexuality are often prone to limiting the individual to whom they are applied. For example, many people who are homosexual do not fit the typical stereotype society has of them-that of the limp-wristed, sashaying feminine “queen.” Yet, when people who are homosexual are labeled as “gay” all too often they are viewed by others as belonging to such negative characterizations. Further, many individuals who have sex with the same gender may not be gay, lesbian or homosexual. Rather, they may just enjoy having sex with people of their own gender when the occasion rises but are firmly committed to their predominantly heterosexual nature. Often, these people are labeled bi-sexual, but that term is limiting because it is often assumed this means they enjoy people of both sexes sexually. In fact, many people have sex with their own gender but prefer sex with the opposite gender. Therefore, to label them bisexual is misleading and limiting.
There are those who would disagree with the thesis of this essay. Many people believe if a person has sex with someone of their own gender then they are either gay or lesbian. Further, many believe that such labels are necessary