This paper is an examination of examples of interpersonal communications, using the relationship between mother and daughter, M'lynn and Shelby, in Herbert Ross's film of Robert Harling's play, Steel Magnolias. This film provides several excellent examples of the ways in which human beings interact, verbally and nonverbally, and the ways in which these interactions change the nature of complex, long-standing relationships. Although this is a fictional portrayal, the film remains effective because it portrays accurately many of the subtleties involved in the communication process.
M'lynn Eatenton (Sally Field) is a well-to-do Southern woman and the married mother of three. She is somewhat repressed, very dignified, and concerned with appearances. Her oldest child, and only daughter, Shelby (Julia Roberts) is a strong contrast to M?lynn; she is emotional, a little reckless, and focused on all those around her getting along and having a good time. Their relationship goes through a number of significant steps, three of which will be examined in detail in this paper.
On the morning of Shelby's wedding, M'lynn and Shelby go to Truvy's beauty parlor to have their hair done for the wedding. While there, Shelby has a diabetic attack. M'lynn deals with this crisis calmly, forcing her to drink juice, despite her protests. Shelby tries to take control of the situation, saying, "If you don't leave me alone, I'm gonna leave," to which M'lynn responds simply, "Oh, I'd love to see you try. Cooperate, please," and continues to force the juice down.
The relationship during this scene declines into one of parent and child, with M'lynn very much in charge. She talks about her daughter to the others in the shop as Shelby recovers, prompting Shelby to plead, "Don't talk about me like I'm not here." Instead of responding to this plea as an adult, M'lynn goes on, patronizingly: "Oh, she's making some sense now, yes, she is." Shelby i...